Tarot Card for the Day ~ September 3

Nine of Swords

Lily Maid of Astolat

Sorry, dears.  I know we saw this only about a month ago, but in our codependent culture it’s always good to take a look at what this card has to say. 

[Finishes pontificating. Gets down off soap box.  Tidies hair and looks around for… Tidies hair and…  Tidies… Aw frikkit!   Tosses brush and looks around for coffee.  Asks, where was I?]

Okay.

This is a card of warning, plain and simple.

Different readers vary the focal issues being dealt with here, so I’ll give bits and pieces of other perspectives before offering my take on things.

Betty, who [if you’ve read about this card on the blog before, you will remember] was my long-time teacher and friend.  She used to turn this card into a little piece of performance art.  When Nine of Swords would come up, she’d shake her head, give a low whistle, shake her head again, look closely at the card, look up  mournfully at me − or whoever she was reading for − and say softly, “You gotta be careful.  This situation is nearly DEAD.”  Got me whimpering every time.

So if that’s the interpretation of the card we’re working with, one of the things to be careful about − depending on exactly what’s being examined in the reading – is that you and/or or a situation may be about to seriously pass the point of flameout or burnout and you need to pull back, regroup, rethink things and really recover before you go off the deep end or go up in smoke. 

So please, today, give that interpretation some thought throughout various aspects of your life.  Except those that involve reading this daily card.

Some readers find this to be a card of delay, deception and disappointment or worse.  Others indicate that it betokens fear and dread for the future, and implies that you should take a course of action that will still and calm the mind to help instill courage.  Other sources recommend a path of extra alertness and wariness, along the lines of “cover your back” for now.

Anna-Marie Ferguson, creator of the Legend deck, writes of pining for a loved one, fretful dreams and obsessions.  Her interpretation that I’m most interested in (on your behalf) is depression blinding us to the possibilities and beauty that surround us.  (Don’t go there!  You DO NOT need to be in that!!!!!)

When this card turns up in a reading for a client, I say things like, “Okay, several levels of meaning here, and you need to pay close attention to each one.”

First, this is a card that says be very careful NOT to take on the emotions of others.  You may choose to be kind and be a shoulder for another to cry on.  But understand that to do so does NOT involve letting someone else’s disappointment or depression take you over; you are NOT meant to be anyone else’s psychic and emotional trash bin.  If you’re one of those people who lets a friend come over and dump all his baggage on you so that he can then just skip away, free as a bird and back in the groove while you need to go hide behind the couch in the rec room – STOPPIT!  That’s unhealthy behavior.  It’s not kind.  It’s not even really helpful to you OR him. 

Second, do not take responsibility for other people’s emotions.  Yes, we all do things that disappoint others, even those we love.  But their emotions in response to the situation are THEIRS to deal with and work through.

I remember overhearing a woman in a store, talking to her four-year-old daughter, saying, ‘If you keep acting this way Daddy’s going to divorce us, and it will be all your fault!’ [Beyatch!]

It’s obvious how false and manipulative − not to mention cruel − that was.  Well, whether we like it or not, WE are responsible for OUR emotions and HOW WE RESPOND to all the situations in our life.  That’s true for everybody else as well. So don’t let anyone bamboozle you into thinking different.

Third, don’t take responsibility for anyone else’s life or life choices.  If you’re in a position to help someone when they’re lost or down, and you CHOOSE to offer that, do so – if you can do it in a way that’s safe and healthy, non-manipulative, non-addictive, non-codependent, with healthy boundaries.  It’s like they say on an airliner:  if you’re traveling with a child and the air masks come down, put yours on first, THEN put on the child’s. 

So:

~ Be careful today not to overextend yourself in unfair (especially to yourself) or unhealthy ways. 

~ Hold good boundaries. 

~ Be compassionate, but don’t be a doormat or a crying towel. 

~ Double-check your own energy to be sure depletion isn’t closer than you may have realized. 

~ If it seems it may be, do what you need to do to take care of YOU!

Bright blessings, solid boundaries, good choices and discretion!

Quote for the day:   ‘The first ten million years were the worst,’ said Marvin, ‘and the second ten million, they were the worst too. The third ten million I didn’t enjoy at all. After that I went into a bit of a decline.’ ~ Douglas Adams,  The Restaurant at the End of the Universe

Today’s Weather:  Puffins!  Major backstroking farfallone.

On this Date:  36 BC – In the Battle of Naulochus, Marcus Vipsanius Agrippa, admiral of Octavian, defeats Sextets Pompeius, son of Pompey, thus ending Pompeian resistance to the Second Triumvirate.  [WTF?]

And: 301 – San Marino, one of the smallest nations in the world and the world’s oldest republic still in existence, is founded by Saint Marinus. [You could look it up.]

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