Archive for July 2nd, 2009

Tarot Card for the Day ~ July 3

July 2, 2009

Nine of Swords

Lily Maid of Astolat

This card last turned up around mid-March. And it’s one that’s always an important reminder in our codependent culture. 

[Finishes pontificating. Gets down off soap box.  Tidies hair and looks around for coffee.  Asks, where was I?]

This is a card of warning, plain and simple.

Different readers vary the focal issues being dealt with here, so I’ll give bits and pieces of other perspectives before offering my take on things.

Betty, who [if you’ve read about this card on the blog before, you will remember] was my long-time teacher and friend.  She used to turn this card into a little piece of performance art.  When Nine of Swords would come up, she’d shake her head, give a low whistle, shake her head again, look closely at the card, look up  mournfully at me − or whoever she was reading for − and say, “This situation is nearly DEAD.”  Got me whimpering every time.

So if that’s the interpretation of the card we’re working with, one of the things to be careful about − depending on exactly what’s being examined in the reading – is that you and/or or a situation may be about to seriously pass the point of burnout and you need to pull back, regroup, rethink things and really recover before you go off the deep end or go up in smoke. 

So please, give that interpretation some thought throughout various aspects of your life.

Some readers find this to be a card of delay, deception and disappointment or worse.  Others indicate that it betokens fear and dread for the future, and implies a course of action that will still and calm the mind to help instill courage.  Other sources recommend a path of extra alertness and wariness, along the lines of “cover your back” for now.

Anna-Marie Ferguson, creator of the Legend deck, writes of pining for a loved one, fretful dreams and obsessions.  Her interpretation that I’m most interested in (on your behalf) is depression blinding us to the possibilities and beauty that surround us.  (Don’t go there!  You DO NOT need to do that!!!!!)

When this card turns up in a reading for a client, I say things like, “Okay, several levels of meaning here, and you need to pay close attention to each one.”

First, this is a card that says be very careful NOT to take on the emotions of others You may choose to be kind and be a shoulder for another to cry on.  But understand that to do so does NOT involve letting someone else’s disappointment or depression take you over; you are NOT meant to be anyone else’s psychic and emotional trash bin.  If you’re one of those people who lets a friend come over and dump all his baggage on you so that he can then just skip away, free as a bird and back in the groove while you need to go hide behind the couch in the basement – STOPPIT!  That’s unhealthy behavior.  It’s not kind.  It’s not even really helpful to you OR him. 

Second, do not take responsibility for other people’s emotions.  Yes, we all do things that disappoint others, even those we love.  But their emotions in response to the situation are THEIRS to deal with and work through.

I remember overhearing a woman in a store, talking to her four-year-old daughter, saying, ‘If you keep acting this way Daddy’s going to divorce us, and it will be all your fault!’ [Beyatch!]

It’s obvious how false and manipulative − not to mention cruel − that was.  Well, whether we like it or not, WE are responsible for OUR emotions and HOW WE RESPOND to all the situations in our life.  That’s true for everybody else as well. So don’t let anyone bamboozle you into thinking different.

Third, don’t take responsibility for anyone else’s life or life choices.  If you’re in a position to help someone when they’re lost or down, and you CHOOSE to offer that, do so – if you can do it in a way that’s safe and healthy, non-manipulative, non-addictive, non-codependent, with healthy boundaries.  It’s like they say on an airliner:  if you’re traveling with a child and the air masks come down, put yours on first, THEN put on the child’s. 

So, be careful today not to overextend yourself in unfair or unhealthy ways.  Hold good boundaries.  Be compassionate, but don’t be a doormat or a crying towel.  And double-check your own energy to be sure depletion isn’t closer than you may have realized.  If it seems it may be, do what you need to do to take care of YOU!

Bright blessings, solid boundaries, good choices and discretion!

Quote for the day:    The mystical life is the center of all that I do and all that I think and all that I write… and I have always considered myself a voice of what I believe to be a greater renaissance – the revolt of the soul against the intellect – now beginning in the world.   ~ William Butler Yeats

Today’s Weather:  Bear’s breeches postulating toward syncopation.

On this Date:  1844 – The last pair of Great Auks is killed.